Work with Dr. Shaler

in a relationship, couple relaxes. They know how to fix relationship issues and solve relationship problems.You Want To Strengthen Your Relationship. Great!

Good relationships can get better.
In fact, they can go from good to great….and stay there!

New insights, perspectives, mindsets, and skills can get you even closer to each other, to that place the poets write about, and movies let us know is possible. Really!

Your relationship does not have to be distant, broken, or troubled to benefit from relationship help. Relationship issues arise when things are going along without incidents, too.

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, loves to work with couples who want their good relationship to go from acceptable to EXCEPTIONAL!

Dr. Shaler is the creator of Coupleology™: The Gentle Art of Merging & Converging.

She’ll lead you to uncover and discover areas of your relationship where you can grow, deepen, and strengthen.

You’ll capture the essence of what she calls the ultimate relationship: A Sanctuary Relationship. That’s a relationship where you are safe, respected, trusted, and cherished. It’s that relationship–maybe, even that only relationship–where you are seen, heard, known, appreciated, acknowledged, and accepted. And, you can count on that.

Together, you create that special place the lifts you up, supports you, fulfills you, and thrills you. It keeps you loving and in love. Nothing can replace the joy of a ‘Sanctuary Relationship.’

book-session-2015Sometimes we think of getting relationship help as a last resort, the place we go that shows the problem is bigger than our skill set and that somehow we have failed.

Dr. Shaler has a different view.

She thinks wise people — ones who know what they want and are focused on creating the best life, relationships and business success possible — naturally get help the moment they know they need it.

Her classes and private sessions are that kind of help.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler has been working with folks like you for more than twenty-five years.

Helping individuals, couples and families get the insights, skills and strategies they need to create the life and relationships they most want is what lights her fire. That’s why she only works with people who are ready to see through, think through and work through the obstacles and fears, scripts and blind spots that will allow them to flourish, to experience the life and love they long for.

Everyone has obstacles, fears, scripts and blind spots! It’s whether or not you work through them that makes all the difference to the quality of your life.

…and, Geography is no obstacle to working with her.. 

  • If you live in the San Diego area, you can have in-person sessions in her Escondido office, The Optimize Center.
  • If you live anywhere else, you can work with her through the magic of Zoom private video conferencing.

Individual or private sessions or mediation are easily engaged in with Zoom’s help.  All you need is a computer, camera & headset and you’re ready to step into her office from anywhere in the world. (P.S. Most laptops have built in cameras and microphones. If not, you’ll need a headset.)

Call the Optimize Center in Escondido, CA (San Diego County) to talk with Dr. Shaler directly
and choose the best starting place to get the relationship help and results you want.


More about Dr. Shaler’s unique approach to helping you get the results you want…

Counseling is a great tool for resolving relationship problems.Dr. Shaler says, “I am a Life Mechanic.”

“Years ago, I was in the habit of going to a particular watering hole each Friday after work to meet with colleagues and friends. Although I’m allergic to alcohol, it was a wonderful community of professionals who enjoyed the Friday late afternoon rituals of gathering, talking and preparing for the weekend.

New people would drift through and stop to chat. Of course, one of the first questions a man would ask me is

“What do you do?” (It was after the ‘What is your sign?” era…lol)

I quickly learned that mentioning my work at that time as a therapist caused most to put their hands over their faces and say,

“Don’t read me. Don’t figure me out!” in mock horror.

So, I learned to have conversations like this, which might help you understand my stance on relationship help:

“What do you do when your car breaks down?”

I take it to the shop.”

“Why do you take it to the shop?”

Relationship problems can benefit from a "life mechanic"“Because I don’t know how to fix it myself. The guys there, that’s all they do, so they are the experts and I don’t have to be.”

“So, you know the value of a mechanic.”


“Great, then. The answer to “What do I do?” is that I am a life mechanic!”

This seemed quite acceptable as well as logical. I think it is true for everyone. And, we all know that it is better to take our cars to the shop at the first sign of a clunk or rattle than to wait until we’re completely unable to move in a dangerous part of town late at night!”

Personal services are available in her office in Escondido, CA, at The Optimize Center, or online through Skype video conferencing.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Relationship Help Doctor
The Optimize Center
350 W. 9th Avenue
Escondido, CA 92025


Dr. Shaler is clear and wants you to be, too.

“Only come to work with me if you really want your life, relationships and business to work AND are willing to do what it takes to make that so. Let’s not waste time or money! Change and grow….or go!”